People often suggest to me that an important element in a healthy organisation is that people trust each other. Whilst it’s obvious that an environment of trust-full-ness will support greater effectiveness and more harmonious organisation, I’m inclined to look upon the principle of trust itself as being a process that ebbs & flows in our relationships to others and to life and the various situations we find ourselves within. Depending upon how vulnerable one feels, or how confident, to a large degree then influences how much one is uncertain or reassured.
There’s a big difference in my not trusting someone on the basis that they may behave in a way that’s hurtful for me and my trusting that a person is doing their best, yet may behave in ways I find painful. In most cases there is one thing that can be almost guaranteed, and that is that at some point in any sustained relationship there will be moments when we’ll behave in a way that is painful for the other.Read more...
In my exploration of relationship over the past several years, I’ve been particularly drawn to explore ways for decision making & relating within myself and with others that transcend the whole notion of right and wrong doing. My focus has shifted from a world of rules to follow, towards guidelines & tools for communication, decision making & collaboration, that in & of themselves, support those using them to engage & respond to life with increasing integrity & accountability.
I’ve evolved a significant trust in the integrity of the tools I use & am also confident of my own humanity & potential to make mistakes. One of the many transformational discoveries I’ve made during my lifetime has been my humility & developing the capacity for acceptance and forgiveness; such a relief; as too has been the discovery of reliable tools that time & again prove to nurture trust & connection between myself & the people around me.
It’s these gems that others have so kindly thought about, developed with such a commitment & generously offered into the world, that I now spend my days sharing with anyone interested enough to listen.”